A click, a tap, at best a double tap! That’s all it takes to “like” someone else – their picture, their thoughts, their activities, their moments. So easy. Just click, tap, liked!
Ever tried that for yourself? Okay now, I don’t mean upload a pic and like it yourself. That is kind of weird I’ll admit. But on a deeper level, ever tried liking yourself? With ease? Effortlessly?
I’ll bet at least four out of five people reading this can list about four to five things that they believe are not right about them. Things that need improvement, correction or a complete change. It’s normal, healthy even, to want to improve, to grow, to update and upgrade. But ever so often we take the scope for improvement into another zone – one of dislike and hate. Is it because we believe we aren’t good enough? Or maybe we have very high standards for ourselves? It’s so easy for us to find flaws in ourselves. Oh, if only I had a few inches less around my waist! I wish I could dance like her! If only I had the money to travel and be free like that guy! Look at her skin, her eyes, her hair… we keep looking, comparing and end up with a whole load of hate for ourselves. Somewhere along the way, we totally forget that someone else too is looking at us and saying these things. If someone looks perfect to us – with the perfect body, looks, job, home, family, financial status and more, remember we are that “someone” to someone.
To paraphrase what a friend once said to me – If we are taking the brickbats seriously and to heart, then why aren’t we accepting and celebrating the bouquets that come our way? It made me think. It’s human to focus on one wrong thing even if there are five things going right. But then again, it’s not like we don’t have control over our thoughts right? We remember the time someone said the shoes didn’t match the dress, but we forget the time someone told us how wonderful we are, or how gorgeous or how awesome something about us was! That’s convenient and so unfair. It’s harder now than ever to not compare, but let’s be fair to ourselves and cut ourselves some slack.
We have to remind ourselves that we’re unique, special and have a lot going right. Really it is about us and our individual journey. We define our own parameters for success, happiness and fulfilment.The grass isn’t greener on the other side, it’s greener on the side we choose to water, nurture and love. So how about we direct some of that love and appreciation inwards?
Go ahead and click on your positives, tap into that energy that defines you and double tap and pat yourself on the back for who you are. The person you are, the things you do, the way you treat other people, the way you look, talk, walk.. everything! Loving yourself should be that easy – click, tap, loved!
Supriya is talkative, funny, crazy, positive, a believer, a thinker, an RJ, a voice-over artist, a daughter, a mother! She loves smiles and sunshine and knows that if you really believe in something, it’s all yours! Working with radio for over nine years has taught her a lot, as a person and a professional. The importance of time, of words, of thoughts and of what all of this means to the other person. She takes nothing for granted and is grateful for life and honestly considers “thank you” to be the most powerful phrase ever. She blogs at http://thought-pitara.blogspot.in/