Life is hard to define. Sometimes a mystery, sometimes a revelation. A unique blend of sorrows and joys, closures and beginnings, tears and laughter, crests and troughs.
I believe we waste too much of precious energy over why, what ifs and should haves. I’ve done that all my life and ended up feeling more miserable. However, instead of seeking answers immediately when I began to trust my instincts, learnt to keep moving come whatsoever and started being grateful, life got better. And guess what answers began to find me too.
Just like a book unfolds page by page, even life unravels day by day, moment by moment. Anxiety and speculation over what lies ahead sucks the happiness out of the moment. Being a chronic over thinker I know how hard it is to not worry about future. I’m learning to believe that life is happening now, in this moment. And I need to live it.
Letting go is almost always painful and one of the biggest life lessons we ever learn. Setbacks and failures—personal or professional—are part of life. Not every venture succeeds, not every relationship survives. And the more we brood over bygones, more it hurts. Let go not because you’re inadequate, arrogant or incapable, but because certain things and people no more fit into your life.
Finding a sense of purpose is more important than finding happiness. I had what people would call a textbook perfect life with all the ingredients of happiness, yet the constant sadness within me reminded of something that remained missing. It wasn’t until I discovered what my soul craved for and aligned my dreams and life with it, did I find myself complete.
Perfection is merely a heavy, fancy cloak that crushes your shoulders in the long run. Let go of it and find the real you buried underneath. Trust me there’s nothing more beautiful than being authentic.
And last thing I’ve come to believe is that life is meant to be lived, not to be understood.
Asma Ansari is a writer and mother and pens her intuitive, sensitive pieces on https://asmarked.blog/